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What is marriage?

Also If two people are married and they are not soulmates what is the reason behind their marriage?

What is it that God wants us to achieve if we marry one another?
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Imam Ahmed Al Hasan`s (a.s.) Answer on - Rights of Husband and wife..

In the Name of Allah, the Abundantly Merciful, the Intensely Merciful.

All praises belong to Allah the Lord of the Worlds.

O Allah, send Your prayers upon Muhammad and the Family of Muhammad, the Imams and the Mahdis.

Peace, mercy, and blessings of Allah be upon you.

{And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy} [Holy Qur’an 30:21]

The rights and duties of the husband and wife towards each other:

Unfortunately, many men, especially in the Arab and Islamic countries, believe that it is a must and incumbent upon the wife, and that she is compelled against her will, to do everything her husband requests from her or commands her to do regarding the house and the children. But many people do not know that the only right which the husband can demand from his wife, is Nikah (intercourse), and it is an obligation upon the wife, she must make it available for her husband whenever he demands it. Rather, it is incumbent upon her to try to show love and affection for her husband everyday so that she may move his feelings towards her. And it is extremely forbidden that she refuses or slackens or prevents her husband from her, rather if she does that the Angels of the Earth and the Heavens will curse her, God forbid.

As for the rest of the matters. such as disciplining/raising the children and feeding them for example, and taking care of them, or the rest of the house work, are not an obligation upon the wife. And she can abstain from practicing those tasks, rather she for example can ask for a reward/payment in exchange for those tasks. And this is a right which has been granted for her by the religion of the True Islam. Because when both sides made a contract, they made a contract in a paper or orally on one matter, and that is Nikah (intercourse) and Tamatu’ (pleasure), and originally it is called “Nikah contract”, and it was not a contract to raise children or take care of the house for example or any of the other matters which are known to everyone.

As we said, the wife is not obligated to do those tasks/chores, and she does not take any sins if she refuses to do those tasks. But if she was gracious enough and did those tasks, without anything in return, for the sake of Allah, then she will have a great reward with Allah swt, which is a reward that only Allah swt can enumerate for her. But in this case, the right of the husband to demand intercourse and pleasure will change, because when the wife does the house work or the daily house chores like cleaning and cooking, she will be exhausted by the end of the day.

There is a command for the fiancé, and that is that he must agree with his fiancee about this matter, meaning taking care of the children and breastfeeding them and doing the house work which is known to everyone, before they make the Nikah contract. If the fiancee agreed to the conditions of her fiancé, then it will be incumbent upon her to do those tasks, just as intercourse and pleasure are incumbent upon her. And if she refuses that, here the fiancé or the man has the choice to leave his fiancee or to continue with her and marry her upon the Nikah and Tamatu’ contract, or upon a part from what they agreed to according to the agreement of both sides.

Here there is also a right for the husband when the wife refuses to do some or all the house chores, and that is that he has the right to marry a second wife, but on the condition that this second wife agrees to all the man’s conditions which the first wife refused.

As for the believing married couples who believe in what we say from the verses of Allah The Almighty and the path of Muhammad and the Family of Muhammad sawas, who were married before this statement came out and before this matter was clarified, then they can either re-do the agreement, or leave the matter as it was, keeping in consideration the love/affection and the humane mercy, and to not use the spouse for personal interests.

And from the duties of the husband towards his house and wife and children, is that he makes available for them an honorable living and to provide for them their necessary needs of food and drink and clothes, and the rest of the urgent needs, in a reasonable way within the limits, and without wastefulness nor extravagance .

And if days pass and the husband did not spend on his wife, the expense of that time period would remain in his liability whether she asks for it or not.

And I would like to clarify something which is extremely important and extremely wonderful, concerning the justice of the Creator The Almighty. And that is that the hard work/effort which the father or the one who raises, exerts on his household, is a blessing from the blessings of Allah the Almighty..that Allah makes in his children goodness and blessings, and makes the selves and the souls which are raised from the sweat (the hard work) of the father incline towards goodness more than evil, and it makes and strengthens ardency and magnanimity and continuous love and mercy towards their parents within them, except the ones whose clay are impure, and refuge is in Allah.

So from here, my beloved pure believing sons, I strongly urge you to work and strive to feed your children from your efforts and [from the work of] your own arms. And sustenance is upon Allah the One The Indivisible The Sustainer. And all praises belong to Allah the Lord of the worlds.

And let all the men know that whoever does not spend on his children from money which he earned from his work and effort, should not await any goodness from his progeny towards him, because when the father of the children spends on them from money which is not his or which he did not rightfully earn, or when someone else spends on them, Allah The Almighty will lift from their hearts the mercy and love towards their father. Indeed this life has a scale which The Just, The Almighty, The Abundantly Merciful, The Intensely Merciful, weighs with. And all praises belong to Allah the Lord of the World.

Ahmed Al-Hassan

April/3/2016 Jamadi Al Thani / 1437 A.H.
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In the name of Allah, the Most Beneficent, the Most Merciful
And All praises due to Allah, Lord of the Worlds,
And may He send his Peace and Blessings upon Mohammed and the Family of Mohammed, the Imams and the Mahdis,

The Prophet Mohammed (peace be upon him and his family) said : "Marriage is one half of religion." So the male and female together represent the whole. Each half should strengthen and support and help the other half. Out of all the spouses that a person has throughout their incarnations, the one closest to them in degree shall be its soulmate. That is how soulmates are determined. The one whose faith is the same as you.

Aba Al Sadiq
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